My Jesus Year...???

Sitting on my couch reflecting on my last 32 + years.  It's said that 33 is your "Jesus Year".  I year when some sort of self-realization happens.  All the pieces come together and fit.  Is 33 the new 30?  The confidence that is supposed to come to fruition when you get in your 30s.  I've had 2/12 years to find this 30 something women full of glory knowing exactly what I want and how to get it... The only thing I know is what I absolutely do not want.  Still confused about love, a little less confused about career, and finally throwing it all in the wind regarding life.  Wondering will my next bright idea have me doing something actually quite stupid?  And most important, not caring and enjoying the moment.  I don't currently have a job (kind of by choice)  and I have many ideas of things I think I want to do... But I have not honed in on anything definite... Confused much?  Maybe LOL... However I have this feeling that this will be my year... It has no choice but to all come together.  Quite excited for what's to come.  So bring on this "Jesus Year" and let the church say Amen.

Little Miss Independent

It's 2012 and every woman is INDEPENDENT! It's a proud title woman are screaming from the mountain tops.  We make the same pay (or close to), highly educated, and anything we can't do we most definitely can pull out our OWN American Express and pay for it.  But what about the women who are more traditional... Where do they fit in? Are they destined to be "played out like an eight track".  I often wonder.  In the days of text messaging, social media, and email what happens to the women who appreciates being pursued and courted by a man with late night phone calls and coffee shop dates... Is this still a possibility?  And with the new age of the independent woman is it acceptable for a woman to approach a man?  How do you compete with the competitiion whom makes it's so apparent when they are interested?  Has the timeless coyness of a lady reached it's expiration date??? I often wonder the do's and dont's of being a woman, better yet a lady... I stumble quite often on that balancing beam...

"Women who seek to be equal with men lack ambition" ~ MM

XOXO

The Hunter

Classy this is Sexy (so very nice to meet your)... Sexy this isClassy...(pleased I'm sure)

So while getting ready for the Literacy Gala at the Charles H Wright Museum, I had a hard decision to make.  Do I wear the totally Classy dress w/ a little big of sexy or the Sexy Dress w/ a little bit of class?   To be clear, just because I categorize a dress as sexy doesn't negate that the dress is classy, it may just have a little more umph in it and vice versa.  I strive to be a well rounded individual including in my clothing selection.  Sooooo the question is... When single and wanting to be "noticed" by a potential mate do you dress sexy before you get the mate and tone our looks down, OR dress the part you want and spice it up after??? Our world is so black or white... So this or than when in reality there are often "50 shades of Gray".   I consistently display mostly class with a flair of sexy in most of my outfits... Usually a loose short dress or a blousy partially sheer top makes up the majority of my closet, however I was drawn to this Kim Kardashian'eque dress by Napel in Kelly green.  My eyes glittered in delight.  Being the Gemini that I am I was destined to continue looking because I'm ALWAYS looking for the next best thing I stumbled on a cute short shift dress with a magenta lace overlay and a teal slip. The color combinations had me at Hello and the fit was perfect.  This was a MAJOR decision for me... I chose the Kelly Green Dress.  I think it was the wrong selection personally.  That delicate balancing act as we get older and want to be taken "serious" while being being viewed as light hearted and carefree is sometimes overwhelming.  I'm learning and growing with every step.  Next time the class will win and I'll try to keep Ms. Sexy tamed until she's Mrs. Sexy or at least on a fun filled vacay (wink).  Until next time!

XOXO

The Hunter

Nothing to Do in Detroit??? I think NOT!

Nothing to Do in Detroit??? I think NOT! This weekend Detroit is buzzing with an array of activities for the Detroiter.  I have consulted Hour Detroit www.hourdetroit.com/Hour-Detroit/Events/, MetroMix detroit.metromix.com/, Ambassador http://www.ambassadormag.com/?page_id=42&month=September&page=1, and After 5 Detroit http://www.after5detroit.com/play/events to comprise my list of happenings around the city.  Friday Night Live at the DIA is always a great experience.  Check the DIA's website http://www.dia.org/calendar/friday-nights.aspx for a list of all events tonight but I plan to go to the DIA Moment:  Behind the Scenes-Detroit Choreographers  . With Fashion Week going on and Detroit born and raised runner up on Fashion Star Nzimiro Oputa launching his new men's line Jag Saint Joi at Michigan F.A.S.T. Fest on Saturday I'm sure that's going to be a great event. Also the Literacy Gala at the Charles H. Wright Museum on Saturday is sure to be a good time. What's better than a great party??? A great Party supporting a good cause.  I plan on being in attendance bright eyed and bubbly to enjoy the beautiful museum and networking with the Who's Who of metro Detroit.  Hopefully I'll see you around.  I must go shop for an outfit so smooches until next time

XOXO

The Hunter

The Kitchen is Closed huh???

Soooo... The Kitchen is Closed Huh??? The new phenomenon of women in their late 20s and up is "No Ring No Sex"!!! With the likes of Pinky Promise groups http://www.pinkypromisemovement.com ) growing rapidly, women are supporting each other and promising to save their bodies for marriage.  "Born-Again Virgins" are popping up everywhere.  Demanding that men step up their games and come correct.  Women are reestablishing themselves and demanding more.  Examples of Mr. and Mrs. Lindsey, Meagan Good and her (ever so handsome) Christan beau Devon Franklin, and engaged (distinguished and handsome) Author of  "Contemporary Gentleman" Enitan Bereola II (www.bereolaesque-online.com ) are giving women hope.  Here lies respectful, successful, God-fearing men who are attractive and are not only willing to wait to have sex but even more astonishing demanding to wait until marriage.  These men are courting their mates and treating them with love and respect during the process. Um... Wait what's the catch??? Hmm... Maybe they are on to something. Maybe there's something to this "wait until marriage" thing after all.  Forcing us to actually deal with issues in a relationship and not resort to sex just to create intimacy or put a band-aid on problems you're having.  Make-up sex is not a cure but most often a symptom of an insecure relationship built on unstable ground.  The theory of sex making you closer or you don't know someone until you sleep with them is proving to be erroneous.  You don't need to sleep with someone to get to know them better... you get to knowing them better by spending time with them, knowing their likes and dislikes, how to encourage them, and support them.  Marilyn Monroe put it best "“The real lover is the man who can thrill you by kissing your forehead or smiling into your eyes or just staring into space.”

XOXO

The Hunter :)

Hello World!

Hello World!!! First let me introduce myself. My name is Crystal Hunter and in my most honest and humble opinion ;-) I'm a fabulous 31 year young woman that is vivacious and fun with the curiosity of a child.  I love exploring and and new experiences.  You name it and I've probably done it, heard about it, or seen it and if I haven't you better believe it has been added to my list of TO DO items.  So I'm a bit of an enigma... How you ask??? Well I'm a girly girl... That likes make-up, and 5 inch heels, flirting, and love songs... Butterflies make me smile and I LOVE doing Happy Dances... However... I am NOT and I repeat NOT afraid to get my hands dirty... I kind of prefer it to be honest.  So how is this all relevant to you??? Well it may not be... But this is my own personal life journey to happiness and that everlasting love that a self proclaimed Hopeful Romantic is starting to grow quite cynical about... Yes a Hopeful Romantic that is Cynical... Is that even possible??? Well I would say yes because here I am in the flesh. I know a walking contradiction. :) I like it that way.  Well I plan to blog on the social scene in the great city of Detroit, Dating, Love, Fashion, Health, Personal Growth, and Professional Growth.  Hopefully that's enough for to take in.  This is my attempt as working out all the things that go through my mind... So wish me luck and hopefully you will enjoy my journey :)